Is a child who cries for two hours a day, no crybaby? Two hours crying can also still drive to despair the parents if they can not console their baby!
Is a baby who cries a lot, but it is reasonable to comfort, no crybaby? Parents also get their child quiet, day and night with a baby on her arm walking is heavy! Physically and mentally.
Just listen for a few minutes to a crying/screaming baby. You feel uncomfortable quickly. Imagine going through what parents of a crybaby.
What we feel is mainly about how parents and their child crying experiencing their child.
Do they have doubts or insecurities? Can these be overcome? How? Are they able to adequately respond to the needs of their child? Are they able to find a new balance and to grow in their new role?
Even though it is subjective, we prefer to go out of the “definition” that a baby cries excessively when parents indicate that their baby cries a lot.
When a child cries a lot and can not sleep, is all too often the tip: let-him-but-cry given. This is said by people who do not understand and have no awareness of the effect of crying on the parents. Letting a child cry in fact goes against parental instincts.
The more is blurring the boundary between fatigue and overwork, the more older people let the “let-cry method” allow to happen. Actually, the desperate actions because parents oppose naturally against measures leave crying because in reality completely contrary to their feelings. By “random” you cry, the sadness and frustration often even greater.
That is why it is so important that parents first cry to accept. And then learn to deal with it. Learning to cope with the crying begins with the “mapping” of the crying pattern. This can be by means of a journal. This diary gives parents and carers insight and clues in order to address the problem. Example of a diary.
The cries of a child evokes strong emotions his parents, especially the mother. Signals of hunger or sadness that shows a baby, bring the mother a biological response in motion: there’s milk. The mother, moreover, feel the urge to take her baby and to drink, a perfectly natural reaction. Crying is a piercing sound and that is exactly the intention.
A newborn baby is in fact entirely dependent on his parents. Crying is a survival mechanism. It would be best for the child when no one would react to his crying. Actually, crying a ‘late’ signal. Because the body before the cry is not understood or is not seen, a baby will instinctively into alarm behavior. Crying is a young baby a literal cry for help.
By combining insight, reducing the burden, and increasing the capacity for parents to get back control over their situation, parents can then work step by step to restore their self-confidence and begin trusting their baby.
A problem looms when you had a baby, a postpartum depression. Literally post partum ‘postpartum. Formerly spoke of post -natal depression, but natal means “birth” and thus refers to the baby. However, a PPD go not only after childbirth, but can also occur after a miscarriage, abortion or even after an adoption. PPD has the same symptoms as a ‘normal’ depression, but distinguishes itself by the time it develops.
About 10% of the mothers have to deal with a greater or lesser form of PPD. Also fathers can develop depression by stress and fatigue.
Often a PPD caused by a combination of physical and psychological factors. Importantly, there is first investigated whether there is a physical cause for example by improper functioning of your thyroid gland causing your hormone balance is disturbed. A vitamin examination and blood examination may reveal a physical cause.
The treatment of a PPD is, of course, depends on the cause. There is a psychological problem to the PPD basis, then it is possibly combined this with calls for the hand to be treated with medication.
The first step to recovery is acknowledging that you have a PPD. The sooner the better. Still, many women deny it for a long time and thereby get (with the family) quickly into a vicious circle. In our society is depression a non-understood disease. Especially if you’ve got a healthy baby, you will not be able to complain about the feeling.
On medicinfo.nl is PPD self-test , a checklist to see if you might have PPD.
Lots of useful information (eg about treatment of PPD and information for the partner), please visit babyopkomst.nl , site of midwifery Sandra Vuik.
Foundation Selene, who published pamphlets on PPD in the past and organized self-help groups, we could no more information retrieval on the Internet.